12 Feb Create more efficiency in your life by eliminating toxic people from it
Each of us deals with plenty of people on a regular basis. We have family and friends to contend with. On top of that coworkers and acquaintances, even our neighbours need to be accounted for in the overall realm of people we associate with daily. It’s not easy making friends with everybody nor will everyone appreciate what you have to offer in society. It can actually be quite troublesome dealing with certain individual types; their escalating requests and expectations of us offers a quite daunting scenario at the end of the day. In order to maintain an optimal life we feel the need to accommodate all of these people. Often times we put their requests before ours. This causes a rather chaotic mindset when we try to juggle everyone’s requirements. In order to maintain optimal efficiency we need to juggle these requests accordingly. What’s not so easy to deal with are toxic people; the people that bring us down, the people that judge us, and the ones that think they are better than us. In an environment that asks so much of us each day it’s best that you eliminate the association to all of these toxic individual types, as much as you can. This will enable more efficiency not only in the business world but it will assist in your personal life tremendously.
It’s not easy dividing your friendship, Family and business circle between toxic versus non-toxic. The best way to differentiate these people is strictly based on how they make you feel when you’re in their presence. If they make you feel less confident, or they think they’re superior and they show it, or if they bring zero value to your happiness then get rid of them altogether.
Some people cringe at the thought of getting rid of some of these people mainly because they’ve been a part of their life for so long. The thought of blocking their calls is uneasy. But when you keep taking in account all the wrongdoings they’ve served you there’s no doubt you’ll be happier without them in your life.
Think of those daunting telephone calls you get from in-laws, or the coworkers who treat you unfairly, or the friends and acquaintances you see from time to time; the ones who bring you down rather than inspire you. These people are toxic. Your life is more valuable without them.
Two years ago I took account all of my friends and I divvied them up between toxic versus non-toxic — I took in account how long the relationship had lasted and all the experiences I could remember associating with those individuals. The whole process took a couple of weeks. After I came to a conclusion on which of these individuals fostered happiness in my life versus those who took from it I remained consistent in my efforts by eliminating the toxic ones. I didn’t contact them. I didn’t call them back. I even took to more impacting methods of elimination by getting rid of most of my social media accounts. I was fully ready to initiate this plan for the long-haul and I haven’t turned back.
My lifestyle has prospered since I’ve initiated this plan. I’m happier when I awake each day now because I’m not bogged down from the day prior from interactions with people I don’t want to spend time with. Today, I only associate with like-minded individuals; ones who want to see me excel. All others; those who don’t value me have been abolished from my conscious. They don’t even come to mind anymore nor do they call me with their overbearing requests and expectations.
If you want to reach a full level of efficiency you need to get rid of all the toxic sludge that pulls you back forcing you to approach life at a snails pace. The toxic sludge that I speak of are toxic humans.
Efficiencies come in all forms. Generally we think of them as applications we can download on our cell phones and other technology that’ll equate to an easier day but lest we not forget about the toxic daily interactions we host with people — The ones we don’t appreciate nor do they appreciate us. Getting rid of these associations is the true form of efficiency.
Jay Z says “more money more problems.” The same relevancy goes for people; the more you have in your life the more problems will arise. Make sure you’re only incorporating those who believe in you and want to see you succeed. Those who have a decent head on their shoulders.
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