Stop being so concerned about what everyone else has


I used to get concerned if somebody had more of something than me. If they had more fame, more money, more materialism, and pretty much more of anything I used to become jealous. My jealousy used to drive me nuts. It frustrated me, angered me, and made me feel inferior. It wasn’t until I realized that having what they had wasn’t actually what brought me happiness. It was the other way around.

Society teaches us from a young age that more of anything is better, but it’s actually further from the truth than I ever imagined. More of anything just means more problems. I talk to a lot of teenagers today that suffer from the same issue – jealousy. In fact, jealousy is a common emotion amongst all of us. We all get a little jealous from time to time, but there’s really no need for it in your life because it only makes you miserable.

Stop being so concerned about what other people have because chances are they’re lacking in another area of life that perhaps you are better at. For example: say someone has a lot of money, or a lot of fame – something you wish you had. But, as you look into it more you’ll realize they’re lacking in another area (that you’re better at), like relationships (maybe they don’t have a solid relationship with anyone), or perhaps they didn’t have a close relationship with their parents. Or, perhaps they’re quite lonely people. We’re all lacking in different areas of life. Neither of us are the same. We all have different baggage.

Happiness doesn’t come from having more than anything – materialism, fame, fortune, etc. Happiness is a state of mind that can be developed by anyone, no matter who you are. In the long run less is actually more. Be happy with what you have!


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Kerry Girling
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  • Cindy

    But really I want to have everything and be happy, hope that is also possible Kerry, or do I need to be more contented.

  • Susan M. Fulton

    I never ever waste my time thinking about the blessings and wealth others have. Rather, I prefer to enjoy every bit of your life. That’s why, I am happy and content.

  • M. Moore

    Materialism is pointless. Yet, we’re surrounded by them.

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  • Keith

    I’ve never been about stuff… everyone’s got a smartphone I gotta be one of the last people still on a flip phone. A Nokia one at that. Everyone had one of those a few years ago. It still works, and my bills are pretty low so I don’t envy anyone with a smart phone… I have an iPad anyway 😀

  • AirRick LTD

    Hahaha yeah Kerry I don’t see you getting jealous bro. After reading through your stuff I don’t see that. But you know what, that’s what’s up. I get like that all the time. Working hard to get out of that though.

  • Susane Cole

    I hate to admit this but I am guilty… BEYOND guilty of wanting what other women have. Be it the shoes, the dress, the hair, the car, the house, the man… I was like this my whole life and I can tell you it has really hindered my happiness! I am actually working through this with my psychologist. He recommends that I be more thankful. Easier said than done for this gal! haha

  • Jonathan

    I used to feel down when I saw what others had. When someone bought a new car, I was a bit jealous. When they were promoted to a better position, I felt bad. I was focusing on the wrong things, not realizing (just like you said) that we are all lacking in other areas. Also, jealousy is just a waste of time. We all have things we can be grateful about and it helps to realize this when things are not going as we want them to.

    • Ian

      I was doing the same several years back. Boy was I stupid or what? I wasted so much time feeling sorry for myself, being jealous about what others had. Once I noticed the flaws in other people’s lives I realized we are all humans and we all have good things and bad ones. I also realized that what others get should motivate us to want (and work hard) to get those things as well.

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