The Domino effect with our habits

Businessman Touching Domino Pieces Arranged in a Line --- Image by © Royalty-Free/Corbis

Businessman Touching Domino Pieces Arranged in a Line — Image by © Royalty-Free/Corbis

I’ve written quite a bit about habits lately. By now you’ve probably realized they’re detrimental to your psyche, and if not conquered for good your life will remain in a solid state of mediocrity.

Studies show that nearly half of all of our daily activities are habitual. The truth is; habits aren’t easy to eliminate. I’ve tried countless times to eliminate certain habits along my journey in life. What I’ve noticed is that when I would eliminate any given habit another would form. It was a constant struggle ridding my lifestyle of repetitive negative annoying habits. The reality is, I knew that if I wanted to live an enjoyable lifestyle I would need to rid myself of most of my self-defeating habits. When I realized this was nearly impossible because of all the additional habits that would compound, I decided to take a different approach to my life. I forced myself to become the best possible me – to everyone around me, all the time.

It may seem like I’ve given up on ridding the habits in my life. I also sound like one of those “always positive” people you see in the grocery store who you just want to punch. This all remains questionable. To be honest, my lifestyle comes with a lot of high-energy responsibilities. I’m a father of two young daughters. I have a wife to make happy. I’m a brother of four siblings, a son of two wonderful but worrisome parents. I just started a new business. Each of these roles take a lot of my energy and can be quite stressful from time to time. It’s not easy to eliminate a habit when you have a screaming kid in the background. It takes every ounce of you to stop from going to the garage to spark up another cigarette. I found the worst trait of my habits was that each one made me a worse version of myself. The cigarettes not only drained my health but they drained my energy and blinded me of my true potential. The same thing occurred with each of my habits; the big, the small and the ugly. It was all the same. I’m actually quite proud of myself for how far I’ve come with eliminating my habits. From here on out I’m going to approach my habit kicking the same way I approach any other goal in my life – as long as I’m doing my best that’s all that matters. Yes, I’ll fall here and there, and all delve into a habit or two, but as long as I’m doing the best I can, that’s all that matters. In addition, as mentioned, I’m taking a different approach to my life and forcing myself to be the best possible me. Here’s what I mean.

Knowing that my habits drain me of certain characteristics like charisma, energy, will power, and pretty much all the positive emotions, I will choose to fight them every time I see them acting opposite to my values and beliefs. For example: when I’m annoyed with life I’ll immediately force my mood to a positive state because I’ve realized it’s probably because I drank too many cups of coffee or smoked too many cigarettes. That usually throws my mentality for an emotional roller coaster. Plus, there’s no reason for me to be annoyed with life because it’s nothing short of perfect in the most unique way. I have two wonderful children, a beautiful wife, two awesome parents and supportive brothers and sisters. What’s to be annoyed about? It’s all in the way you look at it. I’ll do the same with any other negative emotion I come across. My hope is that my mind will learn to replace the habits with more positive habits more congruent to my values and believes. I also believe in doing so this will help me unleash further creativity and allow me to catapult my personality into the publics eye – something that’s been difficult for me to achieve. I found that my fear of unleashing my true personality to others was because of a series of mini habits that formed throughout my life. All of them we’re standing in the way of me moving forward and finding my true happiness. I’m confident if I force the exact opposite feelings towards my mindset when I’m acting out of sorts, it’ll allow me to replace my habits with more positive ones. I guess overtime I shall see how this method works.


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  • Scottie Pearson

    All it takes is one thing to fall before it all comes down. I couldn’t agree with you more, Kerry.

  • Marshall Hendrix

    Usually the first pitfall doesn’t seem like a big deal, but before you know it…

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