The life of a parent of two toddlers

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This past weekend I realized that I barely have any personal time for myself anymore. If I’m not working I am at home playing with my kids. Even when they’re sleeping I’m preparing activities and getting ready for them to wake up. My life is an endless game of parenting. That being said, I’m not complaining about this. I’m actually quite happy to be a father of two beautiful young girls, but sometimes I get frustrated because the life I’m normally used to – making time for my friends and passions are almost nonexistent anymore. My time is filled with changing diapers, playing with my kids and cleaning up the house over and over again.

I knew parenting would bring a whole new level of responsibility when I signed up for it, but I didn’t realize my entire life would be consumed on them. When I do finally have some time for myself I’m usually too tired to do anything. This has been a definite shock to my lifestyle because I’m so used to always working on a project or doing something to fulfill my passions. These days I don’t even know what my passions are. I guess my passion is now hanging out with my kids.

When my first daughter was born it took me six months to adjust to my new lifestyle, then I had another child. It took me another six months to adjust again. When I initially had my children I was self-employed, and my wife is on maternity leave, at home all the time. I worked from home which meant that my business surroundings were crowded. At first I couldn’t handle the constant crying but I eventually adjusted. In the midst of all of this I learned some valuable lessons and was able to find the happiness amongst parenthood.

I’m still trying to find a balance as a parent, but as soon as soon as I get close my children grow in age and I have to readjust my lifestyle. This is just something I’ve learned to deal with. I understand I won’t be able to spend as much time with my friends as a used to, and my passions have taken second or third place, but I’m content with the life I live and I’m going to make the best of it no matter what it serves me. There’s plenty of positives to pull from parenting. It all depends on how you look at it. Balance will come as soon as you accept that your kids are most important.

 

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  • Vicky
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    Quite funny though when you mentioned the new passion in hanging out with your kids. I just hope you are enjoying it, Kerry. Every parent has to pull from the positives of parenting just as you mentioned. Thanks for sharing.

  • Grayson Jack
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    Interesting read! After the period of childbirth, the necessary lifestyle adjustment is usually a gradual process. So Kerry just enjoys the fun of fatherhood.

  • Rita P
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    Six months to adjust to your new lifestyle? I think that is quite a long time. But what do I know, I’m not yet married. Nice post though.

  • Kevin Ronald
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    Creating balance may require you to consider the positives of becoming a father. Combining some stressful engagements with the need to watch over a child could be really demanding.

  • Daniel Lucas
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    Wow! So you also change diapers, that’s really nice, not all men consider the great feeling of their wives when a man learns how to change diapers.

  • Cindy Smith
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    The constant crying is usually the most annoying part of parenting, so Kerry just hope your children get grown up as fast as possible, then you can relax a bit.

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