Values and Beliefs – Finding your Happiness

values and beliefs

Our personalities are built on a foundation of various personality characteristics. There are approximately thirty different characteristics. Examples of these characteristics: work ethic, self-motivation, patience and self-esteem. These characteristics are the same for everyone however they range differently in magnitude for each of us. This means that a quality like confidence will rank differently compared to your siblings, or anyone else for that matter. In fact, no two people on this Planet have the same compound of personality characteristics. This is what makes reality intriguing. Values and beliefs are the driving force behind our foundational personality characteristics.

Values are what help us differentiate what’s right and what’s wrong. It helps us determine the best course of action when dealing with a situation. Values help define our ethics and enable us to be genuine wholesome individuals. Beliefs, on the other hand, are the heart of our decisions. Values and beliefs enable us to overcome obstacles. They help us define ourselves from the rest. Beliefs and values are an integral part of generating a healthy perspective. In fact, they’re probably one the most important part of the sequence.

Now that you’ve already delved into your imaginative side you should have a clear idea of where some of your beliefs and values originated, and potentially how you can alter them to be more effective. Having a clear perspective of your values and beliefs will help you determine what’s most important in your life. It will enable you to balance your priorities much easier. Our values and beliefs are constantly adjusting to our ever-changing environment. Remember, your initial values and beliefs were bred through generations of influences. They were passed down to you to help you, but they need to be reworked or eliminated altogether because they only get in your way of finding happiness. Your ill beliefs and values could be leading you astray. Be aware of this so you can make necessary adjustments.

A variety of these exercises in this book will help you gain a clear perspective of your values and beliefs which is an integral part of moving forward. It takes a tremendous effort to adhere to new beliefs, which means it’s just as difficult to maintain any specific value as well. With a focused mindset you’ll be off to the races with a new found appreciation of life. However, if you aren’t diligent in spending some time to erase the hurtful beliefs you’ll be stuck in a never ending cycle of negativity, or you’ll continue struggling with the choices you constantly make. It’s all up to you.

 

Exercise: Who influences you?

Your closest influences are the backbone of our values and beliefs. We succumb to seeing reality through the eyes of them. Every time we interact with them we adhere more to their way of thinking. By understanding this we can be more aware that technically we’re not living the reality we were meant to live. We are living a mixed version of how our friends and family see it, mixed with some of our own beliefs.

This exercise requires some brainstorming. In your journal number a list from 1-10. Leave a line between each number. Write down the ten people you spend the most time with. Try to list them in order of time spent with you. Now, beside each name write how they contribute to your life as an influence. Although it’s not always easy to distinguish, label them as either positive or negative. If they’ve influenced you in a negative way once or twice write them down as negative. If they’ve influenced you in a positive way once or twice write them as positive. If they lie in both positive and negative fields write them as a negative. The more clarity you have within the negative aspects in your relationships the easier it will be to find a solution.

As you complete this exercise take a look at what you’ve written. You can see how your life is really in the hands of your closest influences. If you can’t already see this, then take an additional step and label every activity you’ve done with each of them over the past two weeks. Label them based off the last few times you hung around them. This may generate a completely different perspective. Often times, people do actually change. That’s what this book is all about, positive change. Sometimes you can actually visually see and feel the change within people. That’s another reason why life is so interesting. Reiterating the point; happiness is really about perspective.

 

This exercise, like all the others will take some time. Be diligent enough to find the answers you’re looking for. Everything you’re looking for is actually coded in the choices you’ve already made. The more you search within yourself the better quality of answers to the equation of life you’ll embrace. Happiness is really just around the corner my friend.

 

This is only one of the fifteen commandments to happiness. If you’re interested in the complete set of commandments please visit Commandments to Happiness

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  • bbcdix

    Sharing my own top Values

    Live without bounds – Enjoy Every Moment, Happy Every Day!

    Appreciation and Content – Always be thankful, substance and never be fulfilled

    Trustworthiness – Do the right things, not the simple ones

    Regard – Leave individuals superior to anything I discover them

    Proactivity – Be dependable and responsible for my being

  • Britanica

    They say your life, how you act and what you do, these things are influenced by the 3 to 5 closest people in your life. You either adapt and become them or you strive to be different. A lot of kids grow up to be like their parents where others will be the opposite of them. I do my best to stick to my own beliefs but I can see where my own life is hindered by the people around me.

  • Ann

    I’ve never done an exercise such as this. What a novel idea! And it may help our daughter, as she’s been having some issues the past few years with some friends. And as she’s been also diagnosed with PTSD, she’s very hesitant to offend people, to the point that she gets used a lot. I’ll have her do this exercise and hopefully, she can see who her real friends are. Thanks for sharing this.

  • Diana

    I find so often values are not consciously chosen. They are based on deep beliefs that people learn from their parents when they are so young that they accept what their parents say and do without question. These early beliefs are communicated to children to a large degree non-verbally and through the myriad of interactions they have with their parents throughout their childhood. Children usually take on the values of those in charge until they are old enough (and encouraged) to begin to think for themselves.