12 Feb When was the last time you forgave yourself?
Forgiveness is a costly word. Often times it takes an individual years to gain forgiveness primarily because they search for outer forgiveness; from someone else rather than themselves.
Although religion is on the downfall; statistics show there’s a huge decrease in believers especially in the western world. Regardless of the downfall in religion the notion that forgiveness is an outward receipt is still very much a belief amongst society. Primarily depicted in movies and television showing a priest praying on behalf of your acceptance, this is false commercialized truth form churches across the globe that needs to be renegotiated. Acceptance comes from within. Nowhere else.
There are plenty of religious outlets to help you gain spiritual truth in hopes you gain an inner feeling of acceptance. There are 4,200 religions to be nearly exact. In all of this religious kerfuffle it’s tough to distinguish which outlet is not only realistic but serves the right type of truth that rings forgiveness for yourself. Who knows which religious values are better than the other?
Here is an activity that allowed me to regain clarity in the religious kerfuffle.
Rather than creating goals for New Year’s resolutions when January 1st hit I used this time to forgive myself for all my previous wrong doings over the past year.
I have already (in my opinion) come far enough in business. Writing 14 books doesn’t even come close to the nearly 500 presentations I’ve delivered in high schools across North America. That being said, accomplishment doesn’t mean the same as it did when I was younger. I don’t rely on outer goals to bring me inner happiness. My children do that for me.
Nowadays, I make mistakes in my family life because that’s where I put my efforts. I used to make plenty of business mistakes because that’s where I spent my attitude and effort’s; in the business world. When I make a mistake nowadays it is usually based on something I said to my children or wife.
It brings success to my eyes when I see a healthy and happy household.
Doing this forgiveness exercise has taught me to rebel against petty materialistic accomplishments because they no longer serve any purpose for my happiness. It allowed me to regain clarity on what’s important in my life; my family. I’m grateful I’ve pursued accomplishment in my past otherwise I’d be in a different situation today but that isn’t the case.
Without forgiveness we’d all be weighed down by the emotional baggage we host towards our mistakes. You don’t need a religious outlet to gain forgiveness. Forgiveness comes from within. It comes when you regain trust for yourself.
Regardless if you’re asking for forgiveness from an episode that happened 15 years ago, or if you’re looking for forgiveness from yesterday it all comes from within. Just like any other relationship; when you get to know the other person you gain a sense of trust. As you gain knowledge in yourself you gain form of trust that allows you to open up a realm of forgiveness inside. It’s the same sense you receive from a religious community but you’re not relying on other people to spark it within because you’re fully capable to do it on your own inside your own home.
When was the last time you asked yourself for forgiveness? Have you ever asked yourself this question?
What I’ve learned in life is that neither of us are superior. Regardless of how much money you have in your bank account to work what type of challenges you face on the daily neither of us are more powerful when it comes to forgiveness. Regardless if you pursued a lot of wrongs or your wrongdoings are simplistic if you don’t ask yourself for forgiveness you’ll continue to be weighed down by the negative emotional attachment.
Ask yourself for forgiveness right now, and then do it again this evening and the following day. You’ll be amazed how relieved you feel simply by trusting this knowledge.
I wrote an entire book series on moving on from what’s been holding you back in life, entitled The First Chapter series. Visit me at KerryGirling.ca to learn more, or to get your free copy.