“If you love something, let it go. If it returns, it’s yours” is a narcissistic reference

“If you love something, let it go. If it returns, it’s yours” is a narcissistic reference

We’ve been hearing the same thing for eons, “if you love something let it go. If it returns it’s yours.” This statement is often misconceived. It’s misunderstood primarily because it’s poetry and even the best of poetry is tough to theorize but is specific reference is very much referencing narcissism.
Let’s break down the simple yet questionable statement. “If you love something let it go.” Who would want to let something they love go?
This is where it comes down to perspective — how you look at the situation. Although it may seem stupid to let go of something you’ve worked hard to get (somebody or something you love), it makes a lot of sense if you take in account your motives in acquiring it. If this is a physical person you love you need to look at their motives. Often times our relationships don’t serve us happiness because they aren’t aligned with our values. If the person you love doesn’t harness the same quality of motives you might as well let him/her go and find someone more in tune with you. If you’ve let the person go and he/she doesn’t return this is justice that the relationship wasn’t going to work in the first place.
The second part, “if it returns it’s yours” is what distinguishes the entire statement as precautionary rather than general wisdom. Perhaps the author wanted his pupils to understand how to overcome narcissism. 
If you let go of what you love and it doesn’t return this brings reasoning to the fact that the person doesn’t reciprocate the same emotional value towards you nor do they harness the same reasoning for being in a relationship with you. There’s a good chance he’s only trying to get at you for his own satisfaction and overlooking your happiness.
Narcissism is prevalent amongst us. It’s a global concern that hasn’t been put into the spotlight yet. Well, not in a global all-industries standpoint. We have seen in America the downfall of Harvey Weinstein, Kevin Spacey and a plethora of actors, musicians and artists; ones who refrained from positive moral obligations and delved into narcissistic abuse (sexual abuse) against others in the craft. We’ve also seen the #metoo movement spread across other artsy and creative industries affecting comedians like Louis CK whom perpetrated unlawful acts against people in the same way. This is just one small example of how narcissism has affected humanity.
Narcissism is the pursuit of gratification from vanity or egotistic admiration of one’s idealised self image and attributes. This includes self-flattery, perfectionism, and arrogance. 
Often times we get duped by regular every day people. These associations were friendly and never would we had assumed we would’ve been taken advantage of by them but all too often we come across the same obstacle; narcissism.
Think of narcissism like bullying or abuse.  It spreads like the plague. A narcissist is capable of stealing from you and forcing hurt against you. It’s prevalent in relationships with our spouses, our friends and family, and especially in the business world. 
Corporate ethics have decreased vastly. Every day humanity struggles against following good ethics and morals because they’re weighed down by materialistic obligations. We need to fend for their families and we get stuck in the keeping up with the Joneses attitude thinking we need more. This mentality self motivates to acquire all that we can from anyone we know. Just like bullying, with more narcissistic practice comes perfection. Some of these narcissistic swindlers do whatever they can to get what they want. They’re quite good at what they do, and they have no problem reciprocating their deadly actions. 
Narcissism has been bred through the human genome. Politics, the economy and corporations are all we talk about. Weather has become secondary in our communication. We no longer care about going outside and enjoying time spent with our family because we’re so engaged in trying to do better and receive more. In the fight for all this we lose sense of our values and true beliefs. This threatens our moral judgement in our business dealings and in our relationships.
Statistics prove narcissism is vastly on the rise. Divorce is at an all-time high at over 55{e481746ea8be6be64f4ea1269eca37b2626d2a7feb7d55cdaf54c7f459a91701}. Corporations are making more money and hoarding it for themselves while taking advantage of their consumers. Their marketing teams now specialize in psychology rather than statistics because from their mentality understanding the human mindset is what truly educates them how they can dupe people into thinking they need their products. We are challenged by materialism every day because every station we tune into, every time we scroll our newsfeed we are thrown into the confusion of what we really want in life. We let them dictate our happiness. 
If you love something let it go. This will divide you from your emotional attachment to it. When it’s not around your heart understands how important it is to you. If it comes back to you embrace it. It came back to you because it knows you’re valuable. If he/she comes back to you there’s a good chance the relationship fosters no ulterior motives.
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