12 Feb Where did the happiness go?
I asked my mom when I was about thirteen years old, “What is this all about?” I was referring to Life. She came back at me with literally the same response everyone says, “To find happiness.”
Without getting into too much detail and without questioning the situation I just went ahead with my days as they were and continued the daily struggle as we all do. It didn’t really dawn on me until recently, 25 years later that her answer was like asking me to find a needle in a haystack.
The sad part is that the response “find happiness” doesn’t define anything for anyone. Happiness is something that’s looked completely differently from everyone’s perspective. That being said, with over 7 billion people on the planet there’s going to be almost the same amount of differences when it comes to ideal happiness.
As I’ve grown into an adult I’ve surely gone through my trials and tribulations. I’ve made plenty of mistakes, and I’ve gone through a handful of careers. In fact, I’ve hosted nearly thirty jobs in my life. Through these differentiating experiences I’ve learned plenty of life lessons. I’ve learned how to deal with people and I’ve understood who I want to do business with. I’ve come to a conclusion that happiness changes throughout life.
The people you hang out with are your biggest influence when it comes to your ideal vision of happiness. This includes business and family life. The interesting part is that each of us deal with plenty of different people on a daily basis — all of these people with differentiating views on what ideal happiness is. We generally hang around coworkers or our study partners more than we chill with our family members at home. Often times our influence comes from outside means. In fact, the majority of our activities including the jobs we pursue, our studies and every rung on the corporate ladder we pursue our ideal image of happiness changes based on the group of people we associate with.
As you can see we are placed amongst an abundance of differentiating ideals. From cousins to uncles and aunts, our bosses and coworkers and everyone in between, all of these differentiating views confuse us of what we want.
Getting back to the initial story I asked my mom about Life it’s evident to see that each of us struggles with the same scenario. As we grow older we get more confused based on our level of experience and the people we associate with. We don’t know how to find ideal happiness. Even if we do find it we don’t know how to keep it lasting. Finding happiness isn’t so clear-cut as everyone makes it out to be.
Where did the happiness go?
The life we live at this day and age isn’t necessarily easy to comprehend let alone strive for excellence. There are way more people, more competition and more issues deal with than ever before. We deal with lack of confidence in the fight within our responsibilities. Life itself becomes daunting at times especially when we have others to look after. It’s imperative we look for the positive in every given situation because the emotional crisis humanity is operating on from the economical turmoil, mixed with the scarcity of World War Three makes reasoning why the divorce rate is over half because stress levels are piqued.
Mental health is a global concern. More people are becoming mentally ill based on the struggles they go through. Stress compounds our minds daily at a rate we aren’t even familiar with. As the world goes through economical changes so do we and our relationships. It’s evident people aren’t accepting in any realm of abuse, and statistics show marriages are a dime a dozen. People are becoming mentally ill they used on their own decision making. In the realm of it all neither of us are happy nor do we know where or how to find happiness.
Scientists say you can answer everything with science but the equation you cannot answer with any typical mathematical calculation or through chemistry is how to define lasting happiness for any given individual. Your idea of happiness can literally change overnight based on one unfamiliar activity. Peoples lives change overnight every day.
The true answer to finding your happiness is asking yourself this question:
“What activities am I pursuing when I don’t question my happiness?”